Taber asks, “I’m an anxiously connected individual and it’s grow to be clear to me that it doesn’t work for me that my companion talks to a different girl daily, behind my again. I’ve discovered proof that he has crossed the road along with her earlier than, and with anxious attachment I’m not in a wholesome sufficient place to just accept him persevering with friendship with this individual. I’m welcoming recommendation on easy methods to set this boundary for myself with out simply ending the connection, and I definitely don’t need to give an ultimatum. I’m new to this and must set my thoughts free.”
Lestie wonders, “What do you merely settle for in a relationship within the different, versus making an attempt to vary it? I.e., certainly one of you is clear, the opposite is messy, one is punctual, different is rarely on time… I’m having issue figuring out what to and what to not deal with. I do know Gottmans says 69% of points in relationships aren’t resolved and it’s extra about the way you talk about them than making an attempt to vary them, and the place to attract the road? A few of these points actually trouble me. I additionally are likely to fall into the fixing position and generally is a perfectionist, and I’m not wanting to do this in my relationship.”
Angela asks, “Why do males view emotional growth work as weak? I’m making an attempt to place extra perception into understanding this idea in society. I do perceive society has had some outdated idealism about masculinity, not being in contact with feelings, and never having the ability to be as weak as a result of it’s seen as weak point, however I’d love to grasp the depth of this and what’s actually occurring.”
Be part of Ellen and Jayson’s in-depth chat as they discuss via your questions on this Ask me Something episode unpacking boundaries, insecure attachment dynamics, acceptance, and the systemic impact that’s at play with males and their emotional panorama.